Never stop dreaming and believing

Hello there,

I know I was inactive for more than a year, but it’s only due to my personality and my health problems – vegetative dystonia. All this time I was struggling, but all in all I feel better now, but anyway it’s still a long way to go to recover fully. I don’t want to think about what I went through, but what I want to achieve and do in my further life.

When You have almost none close person You fully trust, it’s sometimes hard to live, but I do believe in God and my dreams. When im ready to break-down, I return to my dreams and refill my motivation.

I am using pharmaceutical drugs and psychotherapy on my recovery process and I feel a little bit better now, less panic attacks and more inspiring thoughts will bring me back on the track.

I want to say “thank’s” to everyone here on WordPress who inspired me and are sending me good thoughts and wishes.  Appreciate all of them. I would like to hear something about You, dear reader. What have you achieved during last year and what are your aims for this year. Share on the comment section down below and achieve them together.

Between a struggle and living

Greetings!

I was thinking the headline of my topic for a while and decided to stick with this one.
I haven’t published my post with three awards I have been nominated for just because headline says it all. I hope I will post that somewhen later, but anyway thank’s for nominations.

While not posting everyday or even once in a week doesn’t mean that my intentions have changed, it means that I have been thinking a lot. Especially last two weeks while I’m struggling with some kind of panic attack. I got accustomed with these attacks, but this one seems longer than those before and it makes me feel as a crap.
I decided to take a private lessons and help those kids to understand school subjects better, but now I have lost myself and belief in myself. No need to say that I have stopped taking lessons.

I started to feel sick on one evening and thought it’s just a cold, will sleep and everything will be okey, but no.. It’s hard to watch on food especially after I have had a meal, just because I’m human and I can be sometimes hungry, too. After that I cannot watch on food and enjoy social life, just because I’m afraid of myself and worried I could fall to the ground from sickness.. If You will type in google “emetophobia” then You will understand..
I think it’s all because of stress, but otherwise I don’t know what happens. I don’t feel like me, but hopefully healing massages will help me to find my way through these obstacles. I have a lot to do for others and need to help them and don’t want to stop this right now.

What’s the point of this topic? This is just a topic of my thoughts and conclusions. And the conclusion is that You should try to understand especially Your loved ones whenever they say they feel bad. You should say to him/her that everything will be more than OK, even if You are not sure, but he or she should not see doubts in Your eyes. It’s right time to turn to Your loved ones and say You truly love them, because You don’t know what will be tommorow. It’s not a shame to die tommorow, it’s a shame to die and understand You haven’t done all You could for Your loved ones. I wish I had enough power to do my best for others. But need to continue.. to believe.. again.

Peace and love..

From collapse of Anorexia to University

Hello everyone!

It’s been a while since I published my last post, this time was fillled with a lot of thoughts about my future, how can I improve the quality of life for others and what should I do to make that happen.

Today I want to share with You one story I found pretty similar as mine.. As far as I think it’s almost impossible to find the story same as mine, I find this pretty close..

It’s Katie’s story.. She is 21 now and she is studying Creative Writing at Cumbria University. This is something great, but everything was not before she started to study.
She also struggled with anorexia when she was 14. She was the only girl in the class of four where three of them were hormone-raging teen boys.
Stress multiplied in her life when her parents told their marriage was in trouble.

She found that almost nothing is right in her life and hoped that losing some weight and improving fitness would make things about to change. She assumed that thin people have amazing lives and she wanted that one for herself as well.

She cut out fats, carbs and dairy and lived on rice cakes, apples and lettuce. She became addicted. “Nothing mattered more than satisfying the mystery voice’s need for weight loss and perfection.

Her weight dropped from 8.5st to under 5st.hair fell out,  skin cracked and bled, bones ached and her periods stopped. “But I still didn’t believe I was thin enough. When I looked in the mirror, a mound of blubber stared back.”

Eventually, she collapsed and ended up in hospital after having a minor heart attack while riding a bike. She was admitted to a psychiatric ward in a hospital in Middlesbrough, where where she stayed for the next nine months. After that – she started to eat one again, but her recovery was slow. Also as mine actually was. She received a lot of support from her family.
She have had a couple of relapses, but five years on she is fully recovered, with few long-lasting effects. Also her periods have come back so she can have children. And this is amazing in my opinion, because this experienced and awesome lady will be awesome mother even just because she experienced problem which is left in a shadow for a lot of times… A problem, from which suffer around 3% of population.

“Aim to live every day as though it’s your last and not submit to anorexia. Try to defeat anorexia before it defeats you. Always remember that help is out there.” – Katie

Comment from me: Katie’ s story is quite inspiring, I’m glad she can have kids now and she is able to live better life even those long-lasting effects no one who haven’t suffered from anorexia won’t understand. Keep going, Katie! 🙂

Make the best from Your day, dear reader! Trust Yourself that You can beat whatever You desire and You can help and inspire a lot of others. Don’t forget that.

Blogger Recognition Award

Hi!

One morning I opened my blog and saw that I was nominated for the “Blogger Recognition Award” by Gina Uche (https://ginauche.wordpress.com/). She has a great writing and art blog worth visiting. Thank You, Gina!

The Blogger Recognition Award probably was founded by Eve Estells. This award was created with such a great intentions to make a connection between bloggers to help each other.
Also she set a few requirements (numbered rules below) to receive this award.

Rule 1: Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
Rule 2: Provide a link to the award creator.
Rule 3: Attach the award to your post.
Rule 4: Nominate fifteen other bloggers, excluding yourself and the person who nominated you.
Rule 5: Write a brief story of how you started your blog.
Rule 6: A piece or two of advice to new bloggers.
Rule 7: Comment on the blogs you have named here to let them know you have nominated them.

So.. about how it all began.
I found myself in a lot of daily situations where I was observing the behavior of others. There are often people who seemed to be anxious and disappointed of the life or something else. I decided to show my opinion and share personal experience so I could bring that awesome smile back on their faces. I’m on the very beginning of my blog, but I hope I have already improved the quality of life for someone. Also I find important to share those successful stories of others from around the world.

I could give a lot of advices, but I will give the most important one for myself. You have to do (whatever You are doing – writing, drawing, singing, dancing, blogging) it with good intentions. Every word, every line, every note, every step and every article should contain love. Love of helping others and showing that writing could be great, drawing and dancing as well and even blogging. For me it’s not possible to write something without love and passion. Start to love Yourself and Your hobbies as well.

So my nominees are:

1. pallakforever @ https://pallak2016.wordpress.com/
2. Arohi @ https://zhwadevivre.wordpress.com/
3. Jason @ https://jwalkergs.wordpress.com/
4. Stephanie @ http://stephaniehuesler.com/
5. Ambi @ https://theambivert123.wordpress.com/
6. Natalie @ http://natalieheslop.com/
7. Drem @ http://artofdrem.com/
8. Miriam @ https://outanabout.wordpress.com/
9. Donna @ http://alittlebirdtweets.com/
10. David @ https://barsetshirediaries.wordpress.com/
11. Fatima @ https://livingsimplyy.wordpress.com/
12. Kah @ https://kahchoonblog.wordpress.com/
13. Dajena @ https://moonskittles.wordpress.com/
14. Gel @ https://geelinlovesconan.wordpress.com/
15. Mike @ http://mikeandberg.com/

I have to choose only 15, but if You are not included in this list, it does not mean that I do not enjoy Your work or find it useless. More important than awards is Your passion and intentions. Keep up spreading love!

Yours truly,
Uldis

How to improve our decisions?

Hello everyone!

Yesterday I found an article about our brains and how actually the lottery messes with our heads and how to take control over it and apply for Your life in useful way.

Have You ever thought of being rich? Me, too. And that’s why people buy lottery tickets even when the odds are quite terrible. For example, the odds of winning Powerball went one in 293 million. Sounds possible? As one website says:
Humans, it turns out, can’t deal well with odds that are very small. Instead, we rely on something else — whether we can picture the outcome. If we can see it in our mind, we think it’s more likely. If we can’t picture it, we think it’s unlikely.

You can clearly imagine those 10 luxury cars in Your garage, that cottage with golden balcony near ocean. This is not so hard to do, as a result You are making Your way to the kiosk where You are still dreaming about Your future house and You buy 5.. maybe 10 tickets. As a result lottery messes with Your head. In this case – most of times You will lose..

Another example.. People stress about airline crashes far more than is rational, because whenever one happens, they’re on the news. The chance of dying on your flight may be one in five million but the image of an airline crash is easy to bring to mind.

But You can turn this trick from the opposite side.. Try to imagine something not always based only on feelings, but also connect Your mind. Probably, saying no to that “something” in Your mind. Another example.. You would like to buy a lot of cigarettes, because they are cheaper and You imagine how You will smoke them for next 2 weeks, but in our case try to visualise throwing them away in Your mind, so You probably will be less willing to smoke. Visualise how could You spend Your money better.. another opportunity.

Or next time you’re thinking about buying a lotto ticket, visualise scrunching up your ticket in disappointment. It could save you a bunch of money.
With this all I wanted to say that not always people should act like a loser and at the end of the event be that one. Everyone can visualise. All You need is a bit of time and commitment. Commitment – You won’t lose money on lottery tickets, but You will achieve Your dreams of golden cottage in a more realistic way than trying to beat the odds of winning Powerball. It’s up to You.

P.S. I’m planning on going to the Sweden and study there (it’s just an idea here, but I will apply and see If I will get accepted) and that’s why I wanted to ask You, dear reader, maybe You know someone from Sweden (city Örebro) who could offer a room for a few months? Of course I can ask that university for dorm as well, but I hope to find a bit cheaper variant (hopefully cheaper). Would appreciate if You could share this or think about someone from Your friends list or just someone You know is living there. Anyway, thank’s a lot.

Choose Your words wisely

Hello everyone,

We are now in 2016 and that means we continue to be great and to behave great.

Today I would like to pay Your attention on what You are saying in daily routine and how can it affect others.

This is my friend Marc. He was also suffering from anorexia before a few years. He suffered from childhood bullying and as a result phobia appeared of panic attacks when confronted with meal.
Marc says: “When I was 14 I also was tormented by bullies who called me fat. As a result, I got incredibly skinny.”
In this case – his family supported him a lot. I’m glad he has such an amazing parents and I can say that he is almost fine today and I guess happy as well. Why I’m so glad? Because there’s still a lot of stigma and misunderstanding because the majority of eating disorders occur in females and men are ashamed to come forward and admit they have a problem.
And I agree. Because when I was facing this, I felt that no one actually knew what to do. Plus I had not a common features and it made it totally unique and difficult to cure.

But what I wanted to say is that You should think about what You are saying in each situation. Your words can be as a deadly weapon, but at the same time Your words can help to recover someone. You are able to kill someone just by Your words and You are able to give another birthday for someone. In Marc’s case his family helped a lot, in my case that mysterious girl Sintija appeared and just by words in the letter motivated me.

Why would You need to say to someone that he or she is fat? You don’t know.. maybe that “You are fat” from Your mouth would be the very first words for that person he/she would hear for last two months about himself/herself.. Bullying someone is the same as being murderer.. because You actually are destroying that person. Would You like to be called, for example, fat cow? Think about this. I guess You don’t want to be called like this, so You need to accept that others are not willing to hear this one as well. Thank You!

The road to success: The 36 stratagems

Hello, everyone!

It’s nice to be here and do something from my heart to try to improve Your and maybe even Your friends life.

One day I decided to visit my lecturer at university so I went there and asked for something useful whether it’s a book or movie that could give me something useful for life and he replied that  I should check out 36 strata… Sorry, what? I asked for repeat and he replied one more time – the 36 Stratagems. That word “Stratagems” sounded wierd for the very first time I heard. When he said that 36 Stratagems discovered Chinese people, I thought it’s another nonsense from China. Like those clothes. You bring home those new jeans which You have bought with a hope that You have something different than “Made in China”, but You find out “damn, it’s from China again like every part of my collection”. Anyway, even clothes from China can be pretty great, but 36 Stratagems is something more than pretty. Let’s take a look.

The origin of the list is actually murky, but the first mention of it was as advice to a struggling general who lived somewhere in the Northern and Southern Dynasties period. The stratagems are traditionally divided into six groups, for the situations in which they are best used. Each group consists of six strategies. There are for around 16 blocks of Strategems, for example, Stratagem and cunning, Stratagem and wisdom, Stratagem and economics and so on.

Let’s go deeper. I have chosen for an example the Stratagem number four and it says: Awaiting at one’s ease the exhausted enemy. In other words, it means sitting it-out. Control the enemy and don’t let Yourself be controlled by them. You’re one step ahead and in top form You play Your game with Your exhausted opponent. Actually there is an e-book possible to find on Google and it gives You advanced information about history of each Stratagem, an example, description and risks.
For example, in this case the risk would be: waiting must not degenerate into missed opportunities.
When You put Your heart and soul into specific ventures, playing for the highest stakes, do not forget the Chinise proverb: “The praying mantis catches the cicada, but the titmouse is already lurking behind.”

Small businesses in particular should always take into consideration the fact that while they’re making a genuine effort, a powerful competitor is calmly awaiting his opportunity.

    

And this was a fast preview of only one of 36 Stratagems.
There are a lot more Stratagems like: “Killing with a borrowed knife”, “Beating the grass to startle the snakes” and “Catching the bandits by first catching the ringleader”.
And the interesting part about this is that You should think about where each of them could be applied. But with great examples and descriptions there it’s possible to do that successfully, my friend! It’s up to You whether You are going to check them out and find Your application for them or not in the New Year of 2016.

Thank’s a lot for Your attention and will see You somewhen.. At January it’s session for me at university and I won’t make a lot of topics, but I will keep looking for Yours for sure. By the way – I just bought a winter coat for that coldness outside – and it’s from China. Looks great, will see how it will be about wearing. See You and Happy New Year filled with love and success ! 🙂

Politeness pays off

Greetings!

It’s nice to share things which are important for me and this time it won’t be an exception.

Has anyone ever thought about politeness and its price? Could it be measured in dollars? It could be. But the main point about this story won’t be the money.

29 November was pretty lucky day for some man in Philippines. He is living in the US, but went back to visit his family. In the Philippines there is a national lottery and nobody had won the lottery since 15 May. The name of lucky man is keeping secret.

The father of three won 741m pesos or 17 m dollars. He would not win this if there won’t be a woman who rudely pushed in ahead of him. Of course as a gentleman he let her go ahead and after bought the winning ticket. After the victory he kept thinking: “How sad for that woman, she could have won the big prize if she had just been patient.” The winner beat odds of one in nearly 29m.

I think this man is absolutely enjoying process of buying and following those numbers. It’s not the fight for his life and he let the woman go, that shows not only good manners but the point is that You should be in balance with Yourself both internally and outwardly. And trust Yourself. Be confident.

That was the story of this man from Philippines. But I want to share another short story which I found while surfing in the net.. As we all know Christmas is almost ringing our doorbells and here in Latvia is being held a charity event when everyone is able to donate any amount of money in exchange of song You have to choose to be played on the radio station.
One little girl brought her money box to that radio station with the money she was collecting for a long time. She wanted to donate it and help kids with special needs even she is a kid by herself. This cute girl donated 10 euros and for an exchange she was able to choose two songs to be played on that radio station. I found this girl as an example with potential to show at the end what truly matters. Also there was a woman who donated 1000 euros. Thank You!

It’s such a nice feeling to know that there are people around You with great intentions and with unselfish attitude. That’s what I’m talking about all this post.

At the end of the topic I would like to wish You merry Christmas and what’s more important, wish You to take care of those who’s important for You and don’t forget to help unknown people as well. Oh, and reach Your goals with the “Winner’s attitude”, my friend.

Respectfully,
Uldis

The man who didn’t give up

Hello! How’s Your day?

This is the proof of assumption – I like to focus on quality instead of quantity. As a result, I’m not everyday’s blogger, but I think a lot of folks would agree – better one interesting topic with quality than three incomprehensible topics. Kevin Abdulrahman was talking about this story once and I find this important for everyone.

Today I would like to share with You one story of a man who showed how to deal with difficulties. The story is about John Stephen Athwart. He was born in 1942 in Tanzania. John was 160 cm tall and weighed in at 50 Kegs. Also in October 20th, 1968, the summer Olympics was being held in Mexico City. 112 nations were participating with more than 5,500 athletes. From basketball to water polo and rowing. But John wasn’t participant of these – John participated in marathon. The marathon where 74 people had started the race. Of the 74 who did, only 57 managed to complete the race. No surprise – John was one of those 57 who did.

I wish I could say that John came as the first one – but he did not. Even though he finished, that itself was a huge feat. I will explain why.
Of the 57 that finished the race, Athwart came in last. Moreover, he came in over an hour and a half later than what the judges had thought was the last person.
Want more?
John was so late that the winners ceremony was already completed and the medals were handed. Many spectators were leaving when suddenly they were informed about a man who seemed to be heading towards the stadium. John had got injured along the way, having hurt his knee. Nonetheless, with his bandaged and bloody leg John continued with his quest of moving forward and completing the marathon.

He made a promise to his country, but more importantly he made to himself. When John was asked why he kept going despite the pain, he said:

If You were John, would You do the same? Maybe You would quit and give up? Like those other 17 participants. And after almost 50 years, everyone is talking about John and his feat. Probably no one remembers who won this marathon instead of remembering John’s feat.

Think about Your attitude – do You like to give up on the very first difficulties and obstacles? Maybe You even give up before You start doing something? Maybe You should try not to give up and try at least one more time. Could it be worse? No! It could be only better!

Wish You an amazing day with full of happiness!

Yours truly,
Uldis

The road to success: The 80/20 principle

Hello, dear reader.

Together we are moving forward pretty fast. We have viewed topics such as how to start Your own road to success and how to change Your attitude. Once You have find out that You are interested in being successful and ready to take an action, then we can move even more forward and look at one principle that can significantly increase Your efficiency of Your action in field You have chosen.

These „The road to success” topics are my personal attitude and idea, I find this important and worth sharing.

This principle with name „The 80/20 principle” (also known as Pareto’s Law) states that for very many events almost 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. The author of this principle is Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto (1906). Nowadays Richard Koch is trying to show how important this principle can be. He had published the book called „The 80/20 principle”. For example, Pareto found that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population. There are many examples from different life situations when the principle 80/20 actually works. This principle represents all aspects of life and by paying attention to Your efforts and results, You can identify major opportunities for improvements of Your life. This principle could be critical for business. So let’s have a look.

For instance, You are a manager of a pizza company and You should think how to improve it’s efficiency of sales. You look at those results and see that there are ten customers which stands for 100% (100 pizzas) of purchases. You also see that top two buyers are Lisa and Eric, who both make 80% of purchases. They both have bought 80 pizzas. Those other 8 customers make only 20% of sales – totally buying only 20 pizzas which represents only 20% of all sales. You as a manager should make a suggestion for improvement. You take a look at those stats and by knowing „The 80/20 priciple” You know what to do. Company should focus on Lisa and Eric as a VIP customers by providing a great service for them first of all, because they make 80% of all income. You can call Lisa and Eric by asking which taste of pizza they would like to see as a new one. You should call because there is a great opportunity that Eric and Lisa will continue to make 80% of income even further.

The 80/20 Principle

Let’s have a look at the Pareto principle from different point of view.
20 percent of clothes in a wardrobe are worn 80 percent of the time.
20 percent of the tools in a toolbox are used in 80 percent of tasks.

In fact the Pareto principle does not demand that the 80:20 ratio applies to every situation and neither is the model based on a ration in which the two figures must add up to 100. There are possible ratio like 70:30 or even 65:35, but even then it’s worth trying to figure it out which of 35% of actions provide 65% of results.

In other words, try to find out what’s important for You in Your favourite field and where are You the most effective and try to focus more on that kind of actions. If the field You would like to work in is personal, then the measure could be satisfaction. If You have Your own business, then profit.

Try this for Yourself and let me know how it goes, my dear friend.